Four ways parents and their child interrelate when their goals are either aligned or not aligned, based on a combination of the parents’ viewpoint and the child’s viewpoint
| The parents’ viewpoint | |||
| We take the lead regarding the child’s participation | Our child takes the lead regarding his/her own participation | ||
| The child’s viewpoint | My parents take the lead regarding my participation | Scenario 1: The parents take the lead | Scenario 3: Neither the parents nor the child want to take the lead |
| I take the lead regarding my own participation | Scenario 2: Both the parents and the child want to take the lead | Scenario 4: The child takes the lead | |