Table 3

Four ways parents and their child interrelate when their goals are either aligned or not aligned, based on a combination of the parents’ viewpoint and the child’s viewpoint

The parents’ viewpoint
We take the lead regarding the child’s participation Our child takes the lead regarding his/her own participation
The child’s viewpoint My parents take the lead regarding my participation Scenario 1: The parents take the leadScenario 3: Neither the parents nor the child want to take the lead
I take the lead regarding my own participation Scenario 2: Both the parents and the child want to take the leadScenario 4: The child takes the lead